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I went on a real date, or something like a real date on Thursday with my friend Greg, who is engaged, polyamourous, has dated a friend of mine, and now is apparently interested in me.

We had tea and watched the last showing of Snowpiercer, and held hands on the way to his car. Not a weird thing for me with friends, and I didn't think anything big of it. We hugged goodbye and I gave him a peck on the cheek, and he replied with one mouth-to-mouth. I didn't think anything of it, except that it wasn't a particularly good kiss. He offered to drive me home, and I accepted, because he is great company to talk to, and car rides tend to be the best place to chat. Then we kissed again, and he made a kind of vocal expression of interest. Yikes.

I am going out with him again, but am not going to kiss him again. We are friends, and I want to remain just friends - just friends who go out for coffee or tea sometimes - and I have to nip this in the bud if I am going to keep things that way. So I am seeing him this afternoon after work at Java's.

I don't really know what I can talk about, except books maybe, but apparently he loves talking to me, which I find a little odd, yet flattering. I've never found myself to be the best conversationalist while talking to a doctoral (English-Lit) intellectual. I'm mentally below that, I'll admit. But I do enjoy listening, and I enjoy one-on-one chats where I can't be interrupted by someone on the sidelines.

Seriously. Not kissing him again. Can I dish? I'm going to dish. I'm not one to kiss-and-tell, but only colloquially, where kiss actually means fuck. I'm not one to fuck-and-tell, at least not on 'paper.' He is such a bad kisser. He makes an open O with his mouth as he goes in, and is so puckered, it's like kissing the hardened bill of a duck. I don't know if that's just a thin-lipped guy thing, or what. It was so awkward. I much prefer the kiss of someone with soft, pillowy lips.



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Aug. 18th, 2014 09:06 pm (UTC)
oh noooooo

that kiss sounds so bad.

Aug. 19th, 2014 04:46 pm (UTC)
Hahaha, your icon is perfect!
Aug. 18th, 2014 10:21 pm (UTC)
In most cases I always say "Then teach him how to kiss!" But in this situation, it'S really not your job to....
Aug. 19th, 2014 04:47 pm (UTC)
Oh yes, I've had to teach a couple of people how to kiss in my day, but I'm not interested in this one either way, so ;P
Aug. 19th, 2014 12:15 am (UTC)
Kissing is such an art that, for me, it's a dead giveaway as to whether or not a relationship will flourish. Sorry that one was just so awful. :(
Aug. 19th, 2014 04:56 pm (UTC)
Thankfully, I wasn't romantically interested in him anyway ;)
Aug. 19th, 2014 01:03 am (UTC)
Ewww that sounds awful!

Is it just the kiss that turns you off? Or does the polyamourous stuff have anything to do with it? Or are you just not attracted to him? lol.
Aug. 19th, 2014 04:48 pm (UTC)
Nah, bad kissers can be taught, and I'm okay with the polyamoury. I'm just not attracted to him enough.
Aug. 19th, 2014 05:23 am (UTC)
Maybe if you were really attracted to him the not kissing well wouldn't bother you so much ... ;-)
Aug. 19th, 2014 04:49 pm (UTC)
Yeah, sadly for him, I just want to be friends.
Aug. 19th, 2014 02:12 pm (UTC)
Iiiieks. This is double awkward. I'd be super sad because it was a bad kiss - but also because the friendship shifted. I love talking to people. I just prefer knowing that they really want to talk to me; not that they hope to get sex out of it ...
Aug. 19th, 2014 04:50 pm (UTC)
The whole second date was a little awkward - fine, but still a little awkward. But we got to chat for a couple hours as mostly the same kind of friends I assumed we were before the kiss, so I think things went over all right ;)
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